Ghosting, as you probably know, is the wholly unpleasant phenomenon when someone you are dating decides to simply fade away into the ether rather than have an upfront, honest, adult conversation about why he or she no longer wants to keep seeing you. If you’re actively involved in the dating game — particularly online dating — there’s a solid chance you know exactly what I’m talking about.
If you’ve been on the receiving end, you know that it’s a confusing and frustrating experience that most likely left you wondering why people ghost in the first place. Despite the fact that there are many other, better ways to break up with someone, it seems that people can’t seem to retire the pesky habit of ghosting.
It is never easy to wrap your head around why someone would cease all communication and pretend you don’t exist — at best, it’s mega-frustrating and, at worst, it’s degrading. Though there are endless reasons why someone might opt to ghost, chances are, the guy or girl in question is simply trying to avoid conflict or awkward questions about why things aren’t working out. Sure, it’s immature, but unfortunately there’s not a lot you can do about it except hold your head high and move on. (And although it’s not ideal, there are actually times when it’s totally OK to ghost someone.)
It may sound cliche, but if someone wants to date you and/or hook up with you, they will make an effort to see you and talk to you as much as possible — flakiness and shadiness never bode well of a healthy, blossoming relationship.
Here are four reasons why people are finding matchmaking easier than online dating:
1. You’ll never experience ghosting.
Ghosting has to be one of the most painful experiences with regard to online dating in general.
The digital disappearing act seems so mean and cowardly, and the offline disappearing act is even worse. You make several attempts at communicating with someone who’s clearly expressed an interest in you, only to get hurt.
Matchmaking has a much gentler, more informed and more civil way of dealing with rejection. After the date has occurred between two clients, each client provides valuable feedback about the date. This means you’ll never have the experience of being ghosted.
Instead of searching for pointless answers to your questions, your matchmaker will provide valuable feedback as to why your date may not be interested in seeing you again. In addition, your matchmaker is on your side. He or she is constantly working with you to introduce you to someone who shares a mutual lifestyle, attitude, values and goals.
On the flip side, if you’re matched with someone you may not want to see again, your matchmaker will take on the responsibility of letting down your match when you don’t want to. How much easier can it get?
2. You will be introduced to a real person who shares the same relationship goals as you do.
It’s not to say that online dating doesn’t work at all, but the biggest complaint with online dating is how difficult it is. Most find it painstakingly awful to go online after sitting in front of a computer all day. Who has time for that?
In addition, online daters use online dating sites for a variety of reasons. If you’re interested in a serious, long-term relationship, you have your work cut out for you online.
Google has proven that it takes mere seconds to find an answer to even the most burning questions. With online dating, however, meeting someone face-to-face does not always happen that fast. Many give up with online dating sites because they get nowhere.
3. You get to meet someone based on true compatibility.
While online dating sites do invest a lot of time and energy into researching the very best algorithms to properly guide online dating users to their perfect mates, the flaw in this whole process is the fact that people lie. It’s statistically noted that “Men lie the most about their age, height and income. Meanwhile, women lie the most about weight, physical build and age.”
That being said, your dating site will recommend you meet men or women who seem statistically the most compatible with you based on their answers. However, there isn’t anyone making sure that those answers are accurate.
One of the most annoying and frustrating experiences with online dating is meeting someone face-to-face who looks nothing like his or her posted profile photo. In addition, many times, one’s personality doesn’t match the description given online.
It’s not uncommon for people to inflate their positive traits or create dating profiles that attract the opposite sex, even though they’re nothing like their online dating alter-egos.
At Distinctive Introductions matchmakers personally meet with each and every client to ensure the person really is who he or she says he or she is physically, mentally and emotionally. They spend enough time with their clients to identify their true personalities.
4. Your personal information is private and confidential.
Matchmaking is completely private and confidential. When you work with a professional matchmaker, your personal and private information stays in the privacy of the matchmaking database. Your photos are only exchanged with “approved matches.”
If you are serious about meeting a life-partner but haven’t had any progress in that department, your safest bet would be to rely on a matchmaking agency to help you in your quest.